becausegoodheroesdeservekidneys:
this feels so fucking silly to say out loud but I genuinely think we’re kind of negatively skewing body expectations for people w/ penises to the kind of ludicrous degree that its inevitably gonna cause mental health issues and complexes and dysphoria, particularly for trans/nb people. Big dicks are dope as hell but calling normal cocks small for being under like 6" and making fun of someone for that is fucking stupid considering the global average is between 4.5"-5.1". Youre gonna make some nice lovely young fag who hasnt had an in-person penis experience yet spiral and become obsessed and buy alt-med dick pills or dick extension surgery or some shit. I dont know how many of the people I’ve had a hook up with/dated that apologized repeatedly during sex because they were worried they weren’t “normal” down there or bottomed out of shame. We’re turning so many potential tops into bottoms with this madness
This is articulated and better said than what I can write
This is the same brainrot that sees the “Don’t body shame!” crowd announce things like “I bet he’s overcompensating for having a tiny dick” whenever they don’t like a man.
Whether he has one or not, Donald Trump is not an asshole because of a hypothetical small dick. He’s an asshole because he’s a dribbling craven fascist. Maybe criticise that instead.
It really does hurt people’s perceptions of sex though in more than just body-shaming. Years and years ago there’s a forum I’d visit where inexperienced people could ask questions about sex, and there was a whole thread about the dick size myth. Obviously there were men worried about it but there were also plenty of girls there. Girls who were getting used to tampons or experimenting with one finger learned everything they knew about sex from a culture that said they’d have to shove a dick the size of their forearm up their cooch in order for sex to be worthwhile. Secretly they were terrified of it but were willing to force themselves because they didn’t want to look immature. There were also young gay men who only knew about gay sex from porn and yaoi and worried they weren’t really gay for not enjoying penetrative sex, or at least not with big cocks.
It was a really informative thread with a lot of perspectives. People who’ve been with a lot of dick sizes but preferred average-sized ones. People who preferred larger dicks but never had trouble getting off with smaller sizes. Someone talked about the average length and elasticity of vaginal and anal canals and how most vaginas were suited to average-sized dicks and some might only be able to take ones smaller than that. Gay dudes who said how they and most of their gay friends didn’t have penetrative sex-either giving or receiving- and it never affected their sex lives or made them less gay. We even had a man with an eight-incher talk about how he was never able to have PIV sex with any of his girlfriends because it was too painful for them.
More than that was the overwhelming message that there was more to sexual pleasure than penetration, and learning your own preferences and having a partner who was willing to learn them would always be more important than what they were packing.
And the relief in the thread was palpable, not just for debunking the myth, but letting everyone know that it was okay to question mainstream ideas of sex if it didn’t feel like something right for you. That not fitting into that mold didn’t make you defective or immature and that reality was more forgiving than what the culture had made us believe. So yeah that’s also why I hate dick size jokes made by feminists and “sex positive” activists.
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#this is not silly and in fact this is not a potential problem but one tha[t] has been happening for like decades now
#like this particular type of body shaming is seen as okay or even like actively good by people who otherwise condemn body shaming
#like people make jokes about how penis enlargement pills are sold in like gas stations and shit but people never seem to make the connectio
#n that the reason theyre there is because millions of people with penises are regularly shamed and made to feel bad about their bodies
#to the point where body modification scams are seen as the only option
#and if anyone says anything about it theyre mocked and usually then shamed for th[ei]r dick size

